What Should I Do?

***UPDATE 6/24: Amazingly enough, I found her Christmas card in which I taped her return address label! I plugged her address into my Contact info in Outlook and then ordered a beautiful but simple bouquet of Oriental White Lilies to be sent to her house tomorrow, with a rather sweet message on the card, if I do say so myself. :) Pete got me three bouquets of flowers for our anniversary last week (long story) and the first one had these same lilies in it. O M G they smell SOOOOO GOOD! I've never smelled a lily quite as sweet and strong as this kind and they've lasted well over a week now! So I was super glad I had the option to send these same lilies to my doctor. In the note, I said (among other things), "May the lovely scent of these flowers help to lift your spirits." Mmmmm I wish I could put a Scratch-N-Sniff dealy on this post for you to smell, too!
I don't know what caused her husband's death and I don't intend to pry to find out. But I do know it was something that has been ongoing since one of her assistants told me two weeks ago that he was in the hospital and that "it doesn't look good this time." ?? I do hope she returns to the clinic someday but in my honest opinion, if I were a Medical Oncologist and my husband died of cancer (just a guess here, really), I don't think that I'd return to my practice for fear that my patients would lose a lot of faith in my ability to heal them. I may sound crass with that assumption but that's just something I've been thinking about since yesterday's news.
Anyway, I wish her and her family well and I hope the flowers we sent her can lift her spirits just a wee bit in this hard time. ***

I know what to do when a family member dies, or when a close friend passes on. But I am at a loss when it comes to my Oncologist's husband's passing! Nobody will tell me his name or what exactly happened that landed him in the hospital a week and a half ago -- probably has something to do with that "doctor-patient confidentiality." I can accept that.

Do I send flowers? Or a card? If either or both, where do I send them since Doc won't be at the clinic for an unspecified length of time (oh, I do so hope she returns!)? We swap emails from time to time with cute cat jokes or my medical questions. But I don't feel comfortable sending her an E-Sympathy Card! I had her home address when she sent us a Christmas card in December. If only I could find it, I would dig that out and use that address to send my condolences.

Yeah. That's what I'll do. Go look for that Christmas card and go from there.

I cried for a good half hour when I heard from her scheduler that her husband had passed this morning. Death just downright makes me sad, no matter who it is or how it happened. It's just plain depressing, to say the least.